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Adoption a wonderful family experience

Article from The Piscataquis Observer, Vol. 164, No. 15, April 03, 2002
To the editor:

Jan. 2, 2002 was the happiest day of my life. On that day, I adopted my foster son of nearly four years and he became my forever son. Adoption truly is wonderful and rewarding. Of course, there are the stressors which go along with all the joy, but I find that the rewards of having my son far outweigh any and all stressors.

For us the road was long, and at times, very rough. I had to overcome many obstacles while on the road to becoming my son's forever Mom. Together we overcame all the odds and reached our goal. If I had to do it over again, I would. My son is truly worth all that I went through and all that I will go through in the future.

We would never have reached our goal of becoming a forever family if not for the support of my family and our many friends. We are especially grateful for Bette Hoxie of AFFM; Mary Trimmers of CHOICES; and my son's wonderful adoption worker. Lisa Bullard. It was our strong will and perseverance, accompanied by all the support of all these wonderful people, that made our dream come true. Words are never enough when trying to thank such wonderful people for being there and remaining supportive through the good and the bad.

As we continue down the road of life together, we know that we will continue to have the support of all those who helped us get this far, and each day we find more supporters as we continue on in life.

I would like to note that while I was in the process of adopting my son, I encountered a number of people who held the belief that when a child is adopted, all the behaviors disappear. That is not true. I never once thought that adoption was going to make behaviors or issues go away. My son still has some behaviors due to his past which he works on regularly.

For us the greatest challenge continues to be his health concerns. He had a list of known health concerns prior to the adoption and since the adoption the list has grown.

I knew when I committed to the adoption, there would be rough times and I am prepared to deal with each and everyone of them. He is such a great kid. He is worth whatever we have to overcome.

I feel foster and adoptive parenting is a truly wonderful and rewarding experience. I am glad I made the choice to become a foster parent and then an adoptive parent. I continue to enjoy my work with foster children as a respite provider and hope to some day once again have a full-time placement.

Beverly E. Wright

NOTE - This article reflects the views of the author and not necessarily those of the TRC Alliance Team.